My wife and I just bought the Arlington bed a week ago, after just a couple short visits to our local Parklane stores. Parklane has a great reputation and that seemed to make it an easy choice to buy from them. Maybe unfortunately as well, it reduced how much time we spent just trying mattresses out overall. We had a S&F latex core bed that was about 12 years old that we replaced. At the time I remember it was called a plush mattress, but definitely not a pillow top, but in my opinion didn't feel firm. We got our new bed and after a week I am sleeping on the floor because it is more comfortable than the bed. My back has never hurt so bad. My wife who already had some neck issues before have only gotten worse. I am thinking it must be too soft as it definitely doesn't feel too firm. I know there is an adjustment period for beds, and many people think initially a bed may be too firm and need to get used to it, but in this case it feels fine when I get in, but I now have major lower back pain. We rent houses on vacation and never have had issues with getting used to a different bed even when we stay there 7-10 days. I don't really feel trying it out for longer is going to help as I don't feel like it is too firm. Am I wrong? I don't want to wreck my back being a trooper for the 3 weeks.
To my questions. My understanding is we have one more shot to find a different mattress at Parklane. It seems we have to go firm or risk still being too soft. My wife is a side sleeper and I am more of a back and stomach so she does need some softness to the bed. The arlington King was a very tight squeeze up our stairs due to only about 70" of height, so I think we risk damaging any offset coil mattress at delivery or go split king(which I think the joint will always annoy me). That pushes us back to latex and also high cost which is one of the reasons we went with the arlington as it felt similar to the alameda for 2/3 the cost. We had tried the crestline before trying the arlington and it seemed very hard, so I was surprised that the website calls it medium firmness. I thought medium firm was better for stomach sleepers, so I can't imagine going firmer than the crestline. I saw we have some options with the Montclair base, then add toppers. How does that work, and how do we prevent being in this situation again? And back to my first question, is trying it longer really going to help us when I can sleep on beds in rental houses for a week with none of these issues?