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HELP- strict side and strict stomach sleeper looking for perfect mattress 07 Apr 2020 09:54 #1

Hello,
I am a lightweight (125lbs) side sleeper with back issues. I have scoliosis so I really need a mattress that is going to keep me supported and offer pressure relief. My boyfriend is a lightweight (145lbs) stomach sleeper. Since we both need such opposite things, I'm having a hard time finding a mattress that will work for both of us. We only want a queen so a split isn't really an option either. I have slightly narrowed it down to the Helix line (moonlight or midnight, can't decide), the casper, the zotto, the tuft and needle mint, or the amerisleep 3 (as3). My boyfriend can give a little more on the firmness because he sometimes sleeps on his side as well, and my back issues are more important in this decision. I am thinking we should go with a mattress firmness of 5, but not sure because we are both so lightweight. Should we go with a 4 or 4.5 or will that be too soft for him? I was pretty decided on the casper but worried it will be too firm for me. HELP!

Thanks so much,
Alexys

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HELP- strict side and strict stomach sleeper looking for perfect mattress 09 Apr 2020 23:48 #2

We can't test right now, no stores are open. And we need a new mattress very bad.

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HELP- strict side and strict stomach sleeper looking for perfect mattress 10 Apr 2020 02:45 #3

Test

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HELP- strict side and strict stomach sleeper looking for perfect mattress 28 Apr 2020 23:04 #4

Hello:

Picking a mattress for someone via a forum isn't something I can really do with any certainty, but I'll do my best to address a few of your questions and hopefully my answers will be helpful to you. And there may be some other forum members who can provide some insight for you as well.

I am a lightweight (125lbs) side sleeper with back issues. I have scoliosis so I really need a mattress that is going to keep me supported and offer pressure relief.


Alignment/support is the most important thing that a mattress does for you, so you'll always want to choose something that doesn't allow for too much of an accentuation of your lateral curvatures when side sleeping, especially with your issues with scoliosis. Generally, you'd want something with "just enough" surface plushness to assist with contouring for your shoulders and hips. I wouldn't be able to tell you how much that would be, as there are so many variables involved, including your body type, level of sensitivity, and of course your back issues.

My boyfriend is a lightweight (145lbs) stomach sleeper. Since we both need such opposite things, I'm having a hard time finding a mattress that will work for both of us


I don't know that this is necessarily the case. There's not a huge difference in mass between you two, and when someone is sleeping prone also needs very strong support, and surface plushness generally should be on the more "basic" end of things to not allow for too much accentuation of the forward lordotic curve of the low back. Between the two of you, as you have the physical limitation, I would tend to gear your choice of the product toward your specific issues.

I am thinking we should go with a mattress firmness of 5, but not sure because we are both so lightweight. Should we go with a 4 or 4.5 or will that be too soft for him?


I'm not sure what criteria you used to select your preliminary mattress brands, but whatever you choose you should be sure that the product is using high quality componentry (higher density foams, good quality construction, strongly supportive cores). That is discussed in great detail here on this forum.

As for the comfort scale you listed, realize that there is not an ASTM standardized 1-5 overall mattress comfort scale, and any numbers provided by a manufacturer are their own subjective numbers comparing one model to another within their lineups, and these numbers are not something you can cross reference empirically across brands. They are just a company's way to help guide you, as you really can't lie back on your computer monitor to see how a product feels!

You seem to be in a bit of a hurry to buy a mattress, which is something I try to discourage, but I understand if you're not sleeping well. Because you have some very specific needs, ideally I'd recommend testing out items in person. While you sometimes can get good advice from chats with customer service reps from online companies, quite often they're just regurgitating talking points provided to them and they aren't trained about products or ergonomics. If shopping online, I recommend you try to reach someone on the phone from the company who has experience in their mattress designs and how their products fit people with different conditions. And one thing you may wish to consider would be an all latex mattress on the "firmer to medium-firm" end of the spectrum, as this can be quite supportive and contouring at the same time.

I hope that helps!
Jeff Scheuer, The Beducator™ Owner of Mattress To Go
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HELP- strict side and strict stomach sleeper looking for perfect mattress 09 Jun 2020 11:37 #5

Hi Alexys.....I was wondering if you found a message you love?? I am somewhat in the same boat as you so I thought I would see if you found a great mattress. Thank you!

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HELP- strict side and strict stomach sleeper looking for perfect mattress 09 Jun 2020 13:37 #6

I went with the Alexander Nest Hybrid in the medium option. I can't say I'm in love with it, I do like something a little more plush but in scared to exchange it for the plush in the case that it will be too soft. I love the firmness and support it gives, I'm not waking up with any lower back pain and neither is my boyfriend. I do feel my shoulders are a little squished though. We have only had it for a few months so I'm hoping it will wear in a bit more.

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HELP- strict side and strict stomach sleeper looking for perfect mattress 10 Jun 2020 15:50 #7

I've been following...so thank you for the update! :-)

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